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On Proposition 8 :: DawnVivant.com
Wednesday, November 5th, 2008

On Proposition 8


Phyllis Lyon and Del Martin

My heart goes out to all of the newlyweds in California who have just been informed that they are no longer married.  I can't even express with words how I feel about this.  Last night was a bittersweet win, with one minority finally being accepted, and another being cast into the shadows again.  To quote Ellen DeGeneres:

This morning, when it was clear that Proposition 8 had passed in California, I can’t explain the feeling I had. I was saddened beyond belief. Here we just had a giant step toward equality and then on the very next day, we took a giant step away.

I can't even imagine what it must feel like, especially to all of those who celebrated their victory months ago, going out and getting married--finally seeing a change, only to have it taken away once again.

For many, the argument is that "we shouldn't have to explain it to our children."  Well, wake up!  It's there, and they are going to find out about it eventually; you can't keep your children ignorant forever.  Being gay isn't illegal--they are allowed to walk the streets holding hands, smooch in public, appear on TV and in books and in movies.  What do you do when they ask about that?  This way of thinking is horribly selfish.

Even more disgusting than that (okay, not really) is the fact that much of the money came from fucking Utah--from people that weren't even directly effected by the California law.  I don't know how anyone in their right mind can get together and decide that they are just fine with ruining thousands of other peoples' lives this way. 

Del Martin passed away just a couple of months ago, and now in her death it legally means nothing for Phyllis, her widow whose birthday is just a few days away.  Happy 84th Birthday, Phyllis Lyon.  Even after you've fought for decades, we aren't quite there yet.

Maybe one day--although probably not in my lifetime--there will be a celebration as the United States sees their first gay president as well.


Joey Collins, 11/06/08 7:13 PM

Thank you for your support. You know, Dawn, it is very sad. You know me personally and you know that at one point in my life I was "married" because the guy I was with and I living together was the best we could do in Louisiana to be known as one. You, first hand, know how much I was in love with him on a daily basis. You know how much it hurt me when I left. The trials I went through when he left is evidence of how strongly our bond was. I don't understand how the government can control who you love. I don't understand what these religious fanatics are so afraid of. It's only love. Two guys or two girls being married does not, in any way, threaten their own marriage. The love two guys or two girls share with one another is as equal as a guy and a girl. Though they may not understand it how it's possible; it's not fair for them to make us second-class citizens due to their ignorance.

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